A compelling documentary has been created entitled “Pornography: Confronting the Addiction“.
This 35-minute film began as the Masters thesis project of up-and-coming director Brandon Kowallis, a graduate of both National University, and BYU. Awhile back, I had the opportunity to attend a screening at my local library, and came away inspired. Director Kowallis was on hand to introduce the film, and moderated a question and answer session following the screening along with one of his movie participants, Pastor Bernie Anderson. At that time, I promised them that I would write a feature article sharing their great work with my readership. I must apologize that this important post fell victim to my ‘back draft’ pile until today.
Although this subject generally invokes discomfort and can make one feel like running as fast as possible in the opposite direction, I encourage you to keep reading, and to be sure to watch this movie trailer. This new film is a positive and empowering resource. It left me feeling enlightened, educated, and hopeful. Along with my review of this movie, I have included additional information and resources below to assist you in the fight of pornography. I believe strongly that allowing ourselves to become educated on this critical subject is one of the best gifts we will ever give to ourselves, and those we love. Ignorance is Satan’s playground. Knowledge provides us the power for prevention and the catalyst for change.
As an avid spelunker, director Kowallis said he originally planned to create his thesis film on the joy of cave exploration. However, he felt compelled to change his subject matter after a coworker named Jane [featured in the movie] shared her personal experiences with him of being married to a man addicted to pornography.
“No one is immune. In our clinics, we have treated men and women of all ages and backgrounds…teens, and even children as young as 5-years of age.” – Dr. Randy Hyde
Kowallis desired to interview real people who were willing to openly show their faces and share their personal stories. This presented a challenge. Pornography addiction thrives on secrecy and is shrouded in shame. There is also fear of religious or employment recrimination. Thus, although the statistics are staggering for those who are struggling with pornography, it is rare for someone to come forward and publicly admit to it.
“Our greatest fear as an addict is disappointing those we care about most.” – Mark Kastleman
Kowallis overcame this hurdle, and successfully gathered a group of compelling subjects who were willing to go on the record, in addition to a team of professional psychologists and authors who have devoted their lives to the subject.
“Pornography addiction is not about sex, any more than alcoholism is about the liquid in the glass.” – Mark Kastleman
Prior to watching the movie preview, Kowallis explained to the audience that the focus of his film was to educate viewers regarding modern research on the addictive properties of pornography, and to offer hope and encouragement to those who desire to end the habit.
“The latest neuropsychology and brain research clearly show that pornography viewing and other illicit sexual behaviors trigger a tidal-wave-release of powerful chemicals in the brain and nervous system…virtually identical to that of illicit drugs. An individual becomes dependent on this natural brain chemical flood for pleasure, self-medication and escape.” – The Drug of the New Millenium: The Brain Science Behind Internet Pornography Use
Kowallis’ film employs both the technique of documentary-style interviews with professionals and real-life sufferers, as well as re-enactments of typical events an individual may encounter. Each scene is done tastefully, and is appropriate for groups of all ages and families to view together. I would strongly encourage this film be used as a tool for talking to children, particularly those older than 8 years, about pornography. Re-enactment scenes include: a young boy first introduced to a porn magazine by two friends; a scene of a husband purchasing materials in secret, and hiding them; a wife discovering the pornography, and the subsequent confrontation; scenes depicting the painful process of admitting the problem, relapse, and taking steps toward counselling and recovery, which eventually leads to healing.
To read more and purchase this film, go to the Official Movie Website.
Pornography addiction is a subject which is very tender to me personally. I have experienced first hand the trauma, shame and destruction which pornography addiction causes not only to the individual who is addicted, but to the spouse, parent, child, and family connected. As with all addiction, the web of victims extend outward like ripples in a vast pond. The consequences are devastating. The feelings of helplessness, anger, fear and hopelessness can become unbearable and debilitating. If you fall into this category, either as a person struggling with behavior which has spiraled out of control, or as a spouse, parent, or other loved one; please do not despair. There is relief. You are not alone. Many people have felt what you are feeling, and have found the way to overcome. You can, too. First, please find someone you trust, and talk about it. Secrecy only harms, and prevents healing. Seek professional help from trustworthy sources. Things will begin to change. When both partners are committed, a marriage can not only survive but become a thriving companionship.
“The same type of process that got you into your addiction will get you out. Through the implementation of correct principles and consistent practice, you can break free.” – Candeo
Based upon statistics, Pornography has or will effect every home. For those who are novices to this subject, I encourage you to get the facts, and gather as much information as possible so that you can prevent yourself or your loved ones from falling into the trap. Likewise, you will be prepared to recognize the danger signs and seek immediate help. For those who are suffering, I want to reassure you that there is hope, there is help, and there is healing.
Each one of us faces challenges in life which can become our greatest stumbling block, or our greatest blessing. We are stronger every time we overcome something. This process requires persistence, and patience. But change is absolutely 100% possible if this is the honest desire of your heart. In closing, ponder these words of an apostle of God:
“We begin by making a decision to change. It takes courage and humility to admit that we need help, but few, if any of us, can do it on our own…The Lord has promised us, “My grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them” (Ether 12:27). Let us remember that the power to change is very real, and it is a great spiritual gift from God.” – President James E. Faust
May the Lord bless you on your personal journey. -MoSop
CLICK TO SEE: National Pornography Statistics
Every second – $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography
Every second – 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography
Every second – 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines
Porn addiction help tips
Below are listed a few tips for dealing with porn addiction:
- Getting blocking software for the computer
- Putting up inspirational pictures around the computer (kids, people you love etc.)
- Moving the computer to a public space in the home – not in a den or bedroom
- Having an addiction prevention plan – to carry out when tempted
- Knowing the signs of porn addiction – both the general signs and those specific to you
- Knowing the stages of porn addiction
- Making good use of porn addiction resources like 12-step meetings, sex addiction professionals and online recovery support groups
- A commitment to breaking pornography addition has to be renewed one-day-at-a-time, it can be a set-up for the addict to think of it as “forever”
1. ARTICLE: “Individuals With Addictions Find Hope And Help“
3. CANDEOCAN:sign up for free emails and podcasts that will educate and assist in combating and conquering Pornography addiction. Site also includes great facts and a professional counselling program for purchase.
4. BOOK: “Breaking The Silence: A Pastor Goes Public About His Battle With Pornography” – Bernie Anderson
5. BOOK: “The Drug of the New Millenium: The Brain Science Behind Internet Pornography Use” – Mark Kastleman
6. SARR.org – Sexual Addiction Recovery Resources
7. SRI.org - Sexual Recovery Institute
8. Website: Family Safe Media
9. RECOVERY MANUAL: A Guide To Addiction Recovery And Healing