I stumbled across a very nice little sentiment today about why “people were created”. It made me pause and ponder life; in a good way. These days, I appreciate anything that makes me stop and breathe for a moment and reconnect with my humanity. Continue reading
Tag Archives: Family
Good Dirty Family Fun
Mormons believe in having fun. We are officially encouraged to find ways to spend time together ”participating in wholesome recreational activities” that will strengthen the family bond, and build unity. These activities can be a planned part of our Monday Family Home Evening, or completely impromptu. Over the past 21 years some of our favorite family activities have included things like hiking, having a picnic, playing frisbee, board game tournaments, making [and eating] cookies, swimming, miniature golfing, walking the dog….etc. etc. etc. Now that our children are nearly grown, we’ve been a little stuck on the “dinner-and-a-movie” activity, and were overdue for something new. So, last Saturday June 4th our family added something to our list that I’m pretty sure still qualifies as a “wholesome activity”, but definitely not ”clean entertainment”…per se! Continue reading
How To Do Genealogy in Just 5 Minutes
Ever feel intimidated by researching your geneology, or don’t know how you could find the time? The Family History Library in Salt Lake City, Utah just released the first video in a fun step-by-step series to help anyone, anywhere, find info about their ancestors online … all in just ”5 minutes or less”! Who knew Family Research could be so quick and easy? Watch the first video in the series here, and then try out the “5 Minute Challenge” Continue reading
Please Remember Who You Are
One of my mother’s “famous sayings” when I was growing up, [used with increasing frequency and urgency the older my siblings and I became], was “Please Remember Who You Are!” Without fail, as we were running out the door to play with friends, or to have a “sleep over”, attend a party or go to Prom, Mother’s voice could be heard calling after us; “Please Remember Who You Are!“
As time went by, it became an inside joke to see Continue reading
Fight Like A Girl For Mother’s Day

Today's Race - over 15,000 people! (photo taken by me)
Today I joined with my family, friends and over 15,000 new “bosom buddies” in the annual Susan G. Komen Race For The Cure in Salt Lake City, Utah. This event is always held the first Saturday of May and you can read about our experience last year, here. Although the weather was predicted to hit record temperatures of 80 degrees Fahrenheit, we were blessed with Continue reading
A Soldier’s Christmas Card
The following story was told by Elder David A. Bednar, Apostle in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints:
“In a recent stake conference, the tender mercies of the Lord were evident in the touching testimony of a young wife and mother of four whose husband was slain in Iraq in December of 2003. This stalwart sister recounted how, after being notified of her husband’s death, she received his Christmas card. Continue reading
The Cure For Mothers Day
I don’t know the exact moment I realized my Mom was getting older. It certainly seemed to creep up on both of us! This fact still catches me off guard when Continue reading
A Love Story by Thomas S. Monson
Happy ”Valentine’s Eve”! I would like to share the following story about love shared by President Thomas S. Monson,of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints: Continue reading
Dear Washing Machine
First, we would like to express how much you mean to us. You have been a very important part of our family for the past year. We have admired and relied upon your amazing skills, which have made such a difference to our quality of life. I apologize personally if I have not expressed my gratitude enough for all that you do. You are truly invaluable to our family.
I understand that you feel a vacation would be nice, however doing so right now is bad timing. I freely admit that I have procrastinated using your services, and therefore currently require you to work overtime. However, considering that I gave you an extended rest prior to today, I think that your current workload is reasonable. You may also be assured that based upon my habits, more R&R is imminent.
We request that you please resume your SPIN CYCLE effective immediately. This will be greatly appreciated. Forcing us to wring out each item at the completion of the wash cycle is unreasonable. It has proved highly stressful, and is causing great disruption to our lives. We remind you of this [liberally paraphrased] scriptural promise:
” Glory, honour, and peace, to every [washing machine] that worketh good” Romans 2:10
As such a valued team member, we simply cannot afford to lose you. We do not desire to frequent the laundromat, nor invest in a specialist to analyze your work habits. We certainly would grieve if forced to find a replacement.
We thank you in advance for considering our situation, and choosing to lengthen your stride in this time of need. We look forward to enjoying a long and bright future in our partnership together. Thank you for helping us fulfill the Lord’s command, to:
“Let all things be done in cleanliness before me” D&C 42:41
Sincerely Yours,
MoSop & family
“No Other Success”: Unlocking The McKay McCulloch Mystery
Like all people of faith, Latter-day Saints (Mormons) like to gather inspirational quotes. Over time, the words become integrated into our souls, our values, and our culture. When the quotes come from “over the pulpit”, [i.e. spoken by a general authority, apostle or prophet in an official meeting of the church, or published in an official LDS magazine], then it is given much more weight, and considered for all intents and purposes, ‘living scripture’.
One of our “top 10″ living scripture quotes is commonly attributed to President David O. McKay, 9th prophet and president of the LDS Church (serving from 1951-1970)
“No other success can compensate for failure in the home”
For over six decades, this memorable sentance has wielded great power to motivate (and sometimes discourage) millions of parents! I recently gathered some interesting back story, along with an intriguing mystery about this quote.
1. NOT President McKay:
While it is important that President McKay DID use these words as part of two separate General Conference talks - April 1935, and April 1964 respectively [unavailable online], he was actually quoting someone else; J. E. McCulloch, to be exact.
2. Who was J.E. McCulloch?
Surprisingly, the oft-quoted James Edward [J.E.] McCulloch remains shrouded in mystery. An online search will give you hundreds of references [mainly by Mormon leaders quoting McKay quoting McCulloch]! However, I have tried and failed to find a bio or a photo of the man. Thanks to a great article published in 2004 by Russell Arden Fox at Times and Seasons, we know that McCulloch “lived in Nashville at the turn of the [20th] century, and served as secretary to the Southern Sociological Congress”. From what I have ascertained, Mr. McCulloch was a prolific author of books, as well as editor for Southern Sociological Congress essays, on topics of conservative values and societal trends. A listing of his literary output – totaling 73 - is found on GoogleBooks, with titles such as: “The Human Way: Addresses on Race Problems“, “Battling for Social Betterment“, and “Democracy In Earnest“.
3. Source of The Quote:
Our ”success/failure” quote comes from J.E. McCulloch’s book entitled Home: The Savior of Civilization [ 1924, The Southern Co-operative League, 638 pages]. You’ve gotta love that title. Like all of his books, it is out of print, and sadly, unlike most of his other books, it is not scanned yet, nor available online (but consider, it is 638 pages). The good news is that a book synopsis pdf is available through online archives which gives a fascinating glimpse:
- “This is a large volume [638 pages] compiled for the use of families at their family altars. It consists of daily readings for the year, for the “home council” – the name given the family group in its religious studies.”
- “The quotations that serve as reading materials are gathered from widely scattered sources, ranging from the Bible…to selections from the prose and poetry of the renowned and less renowned…the purpose of the book, as the title implies and the introduction states is to make of the home “God’s garden of character; the soul may grow elsewhere, but it grows to perfection there“
- “The home should be the bulwark of civilization, the school of the spirit, and this book is the text which [McCulloch] evolved with his own family in his own home, with what he and his friends have felt to be good results. He is now passing on his program to any who are interested in keeping the family altar a supreme element in the home…” – AAPSS, scanned on JStor (emphasis added)
Wow! Just the outline of this book says so much about Mr. McCulloch’s deep commitment to home and family. It states here that the book is a compilation of scriptures, poems and quotes, so we still cannot be 100% sure if McCulloch is the actual author of the famous quote included in the book, or if he was also quoting! This is another ’mystery’ part of our story, waiting for final confirmation.
4. The Mormon Connection
President David O. McKay’s legacy with the church includes fully implementing the Family Home Evening Program, (an idea first introduced in 1915 – given as “advice” to LDS parents – see history). Since 1964, Family Home Evening (affectionately abbreviated to FHE) has been a standard practice in Latter-day Saint homes. Mormon families set aside Monday night as the evening to be spent exclusively with their families – to sing together, study the scriptures, play games (and eat treats).
In some ways, Monday night becomes the “most sacred” night of the week for a Mormon – in the sense that as a lay congregation with many service responsibilities, this is the only night the church building is guaranteed to remain locked, and unlike Sunday’s or other days of the week, church responsibilities, service projects, choir rehearsals, meetings, and activities will NEVER be scheduled! It’s also an unspoken rule that Mormons don’t call other Mormons after 6 PM on a Monday night, in respect for Family Home Evening.
From the synopsis of his book, Mr. McCulloch had already instituted a very successful family home evening program of his own, which others were using, too! Did McCulloch’s program of holding ‘Home Council’, and his subsequent book encouraging the practice, have an influence on President McKay? Could it have prompted the inspiration to begin the full-fledged Church-wide ‘Family Home Evening Program’? Another mystery, but certainly feasible. Either way, McCulloch would be pleased to know that Mormons are “Keeping the family altar a supreme element in the home“.
It seems to me that Latter-day Saints have a lot to owe the mysterious J.E. McCulloch. If nothing else, I think it would be fair to say he holds the unique distinction of being the most-quoted-yet-least-credited-non-Mormon-by-Mormons. :) I would certainly be interested in learning much more about this fascinating man. [If you have detailed information, or actually possess a copy of his rare book, please contact me by leaving a comment!]
Although we usually only remember the famous McKay ‘one-liner’, the full McCulloch quote given by President David O. McKay is as follows:
“The home is the first and most effective place for children to learn the lessons of life: truth, honor, virtue, self-control; the value of education, honest work, and the purpose and privilege of life. Nothing can take the place of home in rearing and teaching children, and no other success can compensate for failure in the home” ( J. E. McCulloch, Home: The Savior of Civilization [1924], 42; in Conference Report, Apr. 1935, 116).
In 1972, President Harold B. Lee, first counselor to Pres. McKay, and later 11th President of the church, added a line to the McCulloch/McKay quote “over the pulpit”, which does a marvelous job of both softening and strengthening the message of this famous quote for all families:
Remember, paraphrasing what President McKay said, “No success will compensate for failure in the home.” Remember also that no home is a failure as long as that home doesn’t give up. “- Harold B. Lee, Ensign, Feb. 1972
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AUTHOR NOTE: To all my fabulous, alert and very-eager-to-be-mystery-solving readers. Yes, I am aware there is a pdf offered by Sage Journals Online. At first glance, it looks like a pdf of Mr. McCullough’s book! Nope. Rather, it is an article published in the same year, 1924, and by the same press company. The article lists the synopsis of McCulloch’s “Home: The Savior of Civilization”, along with several other newly released books that year. It was essentially designed as a promotional ad from the publishing house, but it also provides fascinating insight. I have quoted this article extensively in #3 above.
I welcome any new info. And, as always, I hope to hear your thoughts and comments! – MoSop
The Last Letter Home: A Soldier’s Song
On May 1, 2003 husband, father, son and friend, US Army Pfc. Jesse Givens died in Iraq in the service of his country. He was 34 years old. Givens was parked in an M-1 main battle tank alongside the bank of the Euphrates River in Al Habbaniyah, Iraq. The riverbank gave way, resulting in the tank falling into the river. His comrades tried desperately and unsuccessfully to free him. Ironically, Pfc. Jesse A. Givens drowned in the desert. Givens was assigned to 2nd Squadron, 3rd Armored Cavalry Regiment, Fort Carson, Colorado. He had shipped out just 3 weeks prior to his death, on April 6th. Two weeks prior to his death, he wrote a final letter, and mailed it to his wife Melissa, his five year-old son Dakota (nicknamed ‘Toad’) and his unborn child Carson (nicknamed ‘Bean’)
The final letter arrived a month after the funerals, memorial services and gun salutes. It came in the mail, and delivered to Melissa Givens in the maternity ward, where she had just given birth to the son Jesse Givens would never hold….
“He called me a week before [his death] and told me he had written the letter, but not to open it unless he died,” Melissa Givens said.
Out of this tragedy, Pfc. Givens last letter home has made a tremendous impact on thousands of strangers. Something he certainly didn’t intend, and never could have imagined.
Since 2003, the letter has been published in the New York Times, and featured in the HBO Documentary Film ”The Last Letters Home“. In 2006, the mens vocal ensemble Cantus commissioned composer Lee Hoiby to write a song for them. Mr. Hoiby received permission from Melissa Givens to set the words of the letter to music. It was originally written for a men’s trio of voices (1 Tenor, 2 Baritones). Later, it was set into a full choral work.
Listening to Lee Hoiby’s setting of Jesse Givens’ letter, Erick Lichte [director of Cantus] says he’s especially touched by the closing lines: “Go outside and look at the stars and count them. Don’t forget to smile.”
“The hopefulness and the love of life that’s expressed in his words is immeasurable, It’s almost too much to bear.”
- as reported by Minnesota Public Radio
As we prepare to lay 2009 to rest, this seems a fitting tribute of remembrance. I hope that as we each step boldly into 2010, we will include the resolve not to take our freedom for granted. May the death of Pfc. Givens and all of his fallen brothers and sisters of the armed forces not be in vain. May the living sacrifice of the surviving families, friends, and fellow enlisted servicemen & women be forever honored.
“…I searched all my life for a dream and I found it in you. . . . The happiest moments in my life all deal with my little family…I’ll be in the sun, shadows, dreams, and joys of your life…There is so much more I need to say, so much more I need to share. A million lifetimes’ worth. I married you for a million lifetimes. That’s how long I will be with you… “
I pray that Givens’ faith, hope, and love of family will live on in each of us.
Video tribute created by Seth Adam Smith
To read the full text of Jesse Givens Final Letter Go To: fallenheroesmemorial.com
To Read An Indepth Interview – Go to thefinalrollcall.us
Favorite Christmas Treat Recipes
On The 22nd Day of Christmas it’s time for something good to eat…MoSop shares several favorite recipes, choose your treat!
Click to Listen: “Jingle Bells”
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YE MERRY OLDE DIP (Toffee Apple)

Ye Merry Olde Dip
Something easy to make and take that’s delightfully different!
1 package (8/227 g) cream cheese, softened
1/2 C packed brown sugar
1/4 C sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
10 ounces (284 g) crushed and crumbled English toffee
1 Large Red Apple, sliced
1 Large Green Apple, sliced
Beat the cream cheese, sugars, and vanilla in a bowl. Fold in the English toffee. Serve with the Christmas colored apple slices for dipping. A jolly good yule treat!
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Christmas Crunch
Grandma June’s Christmas Crunch
In a heavy pan over low heat, add the following:
2 Cubes Butter
1 C sugar
1/4 water
Stir continually. As soon as it begins to boil, remove from heat and cover with a lid.
Let stand 2 minutes. Then, Add:
1/2 C chopped almonds
Return to low heat, stir continually. Watch the color. When it turns to a darker tan, and slightly smokes, remove from heat and pour quickly onto a cookie sheet with a lipped edge.
Cover hot mixture with:
1/2 pound chocolate: I like to use 1 bag chocolate chips, or you may break a large candy bar into little pieces. As the chocolate begins to melt spread it gently across the sheet with a spatula, until evenly coated.
Evenly sprinkle on top of the melted mixture:
3/4 C ground walnuts
1/4 C ground peppermint candycane
[Hint, lightly press down on the toppings with back of spatula, to set them into the mix] Allow the tray to fully cool and harden. [Hint: I place the tray into my refrigerator overnight.] Then, break into pieces using a mallet or hammer. (the kids love this task)
Wrap in cellophane with a ribbon, and give to all your friends and neighbors!
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Santa's Brownies
Santa’s Brownies
Here is the treat we always leave on a plate by the fireplace on christmas eve!
2 C sugar
2 C flour
1 cube butter, softened
4 Tb. cocoa
1/4 C. oil
1 C water
1 C Buttermilk
1 tsp. baking soda
1/4 tsp. salt
1 tsp. vanilla
2 eggs
Mix sugar and flour well. Set aside.
Place butter, cocoa, oil and water in pan on med heat. Stir and bring just to a boil. Pour hot mixture slowly into the flour/sugar and mix until well blended. Add remaining ingredients, mixing well. Pour into large baking pan. Bake at 350 degrees for 20-30 min. Do not over-bake. Remove and cool.

Santa's peppermint frosting
Santa’s Peppermint Brownie Frosting
2 egg whites, unbeaten
1/4 tsp. cream of tartar
1/4 tsp. lemon extract
dash of salt
1 pkg. powdered sugar
1/3 C. butter softened
Red food coloring
Beat first 4 ingredients until fairly stiff. Gradually add (about 1 Cup at a time) the powdered sugar and blend well.
Beat until completely smooth, scraping the bowl often.
Add the butter, and a few drops of red food coloring – beat well
Next, hand stir in crushed peppermint stick candy (hint: try using 1/2 red peppermint and 1/2 green starlight mint for an extra festive look)
Frost Santa’s brownies, slice into squares, and be sure to serve with milk!
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Candy Cane Popcorn Balls
I saved the best for last! These popcorn balls are sure to become a favorite family tradition! [Hint: One batch is never enough!]
Ingredients:
4 quarts popped popcorn
2 teaspoons water
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup light corn syrup
1/4 cup butter
2 cups sugar
24 miniature candy canes
Directions:
Place popcorn in a large greased bowl or roasting pan; set aside. In a small bowl, combine the water, baking soda and vanilla; set aside.
In a heavy saucepan, combine corn syrup and butter; heat over medium heat until butter is melted. Add sugar; cook and stir until sugar is dissolved and mixture comes to a boil. Cook and stir until a candy thermometer reaches 230° (thread stage), about 2 minutes.
Remove from heat. Stir in vanilla mixture (mixture will foam) until blended. Immediately pour over popcorn, stirring to coat evenly. Cool for about 5 minutes, stirring several times. When cool enough to handle, firmly shape with buttered hands into 2-in. balls. Insert straight end of candy cane in the center of each ball. Yield: 2 dozen.
These make great gifts for children to give, or receive. When guests are expected, hang several popcorn balls on your Christmas tree. They not only make great conversation pieces, they serve as fun and tasty party favors!













